Why I deleted all my Online Dating Profiles..
“None of us are ready for a romantic relationship until we chase God first.”
I can honestly tell you that my life has been completely different these past few weeks. While nothing has exactly changed in my life, my heart, my mind and my motivation has a different output then what it was.
On Sunday, March 6 2016, I got in front of a large group of people at Hope City Church and shared my story. I shared with them the mountains that I climbed, the valleys that I had fallen in – but most of all, I didn’t hide my struggles. I didn’t hide my anger throughout the hardest parts of my life. If you’d like to re-visit my story, or you haven’t heard it, I encourage you to listen to it here.
“The depth of life takes suffering and hardship.”
But, back to the topic on hand. Why did I decide to give up online dating? There are actually various reasons that I decided to give up dating and some of them we really don’t need to visit.
The other day, I was browsing through Twitter when someone mentioned the book “The Chase: Trusting God with Your Happily Ever After” by Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky. While this book is aimed at teen girls, I advise any single female to read this. It puts A LOT into perspective. Perspectives that I never thought to look at before. Together the two of them will show you how to put God first, protect your heart, deal with loneliness and peer pressure that come along with purity, and see yourself as God does.
I personally, listened to the audio book and was finished within a day because it was THAT good.
There are so many things in this world that are telling us how to feel, what to feel, and when we should feel it.. but honestly, the pressures of the world should not take over what you feel is right in your heart.
In Matthew 22:37, Jesus says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul and all your mind.” We are called to God to love Him with everything and to put Him above anything else. However, I can honestly say I have not been doing that. I have been searching to fill a void in my heart and thought that the only way that void could be filled would be with something on this Earth, never realizing that void should be filled with my heavenly Father. He never fails me. I should be chasing after God rather than any person or thing.
I can understand how hard it is to try not to fill the void with something that gives you hope, fulfillment or joy in that very moment. I can say that I am VERY VERY impatient and do not want to wait for the gradual movements of life. I want things when I want them (however, I have definitely learned that God does not work that way and He gives you what He believes you need, when He says the timing is right).
While learning that I need to chase after God, I have also learned that once the timing is right and that relationship comes – I want the best. I want someone who displays God’s love. Someone who chases after God as well. I understand that my faith will continue to be tested. I understand that I might fall down, but that I need to keep getting back up and trust in God.
Lastly, I really couldn’t have said it better than Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky when they say:
“Run to God when you’re lonely. He will satisfy your heart more than a guy ever could. Trust God and pray believing.”
Hugs and Highfives,